Barna Research Group has released a new study on the relationship between women and Church in America. To view the report, click HERE.
What if we exchanged the practice of judging others for the practice of helping? Our Christian community is not bound by legal relationships, but by relationships of love. How can we be helpful to one another? Galatians 6:1 offers a crash course in helping our brother or sister with the speck in his or her eye.
“Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted” (Galatians 6:1, NIV).
Step 1: Get the facts straight. (…”if someone is caught in a sin”…)
Step 2: Make sure your own house is in order. (…”you who live by the Spirit…”)
Step 3: Be clear about your motivation. (…”should restore”…)
Step 4: Be clear about your tone. (…”gently”…)
Step 5: Maintain humility. (“But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.”)
The thing that stands out to me most about Paul’s crash course is his emphasis on restoration. We are not spiritual vigilantes, righting every wrong that is unattended in someone’s life. The goal is not punishment, the goal is restoration. Until your goal is restoring someone, you’re not ready to remove the speck.
“And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye?” (Matthew 7:3-4, NLT)
Jesus moved from condemning the act of judging others to the hypocrisy of trying to fix other’s problems to the neglect of one’s own problems. Jesus used hyperbole to make his point regarding the foolishness of fixing one’s gaze on something minor is someone else’s life while failing to note the significant error in their own life.
His words speak to the fact that judges have the tendency to maximize the faults of others while minimizing their own. Too often we are tempted to condemn the weaknesses in others that we are not willing to face in ourselves. We self promote when we put someone down simply to elevate ourselves.
The truth is that the best way to help others is from a position of health, where you have first dealt with yourself. John R.W. Stott once wrote that condemnation IS the splinter in our own lives. We would all do well by taking time to look within before we look around.
Tomorrow I’ll post some thoughts on Jesus’ conclusion to this very difficult theme.
Jesus never anticipated that we, living in community, would be perfect. Which begs the question, “How do we deal with each other’s fallenness?” The seventh chapter of Matthew’s gospel begins with Jesus’ harshest words:
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you” (Matthew 7:1-2, NIV).
Jesus words here are plain spoken. Literally, they read, “Do not make a practice or habit of judging others.” Before we get into what that means, let’s be clear on what He does not mean. Jesus is not, as Tolstoy suggested, recommending that we eliminate the legal system and abolish formal government justice systems. Neither is he suggesting that we live our lives turning blind eyes and deaf ears to the world around us. His command is not a prohibition against having discernment or discretion (cf. Matthews 7:15-20; 10:11-15; 16:6-12; and 18:17-18).
Jesus’ condemnation is addressed to those who evaluate the motives and character of others, casting a verdict based on your own evaluation of him or her. Judgmental people evaluate others (note the word “measure”) to see if they meet a particular benchmark. These self appointed persons assume responsibility to fix others, and even seem to enjoy the human failings of others.
There are three things that God has not delegated to his children: condemnation, vengeance, and judgment. So if you’re not on the jury, perhaps its time to stop trying to reach a verdict. We are not permitted to judge, not because we fail but because we are fallen. We are disqualified to serve in the role of judge.
Matthew 7:2 has always been one of the hardest words of Jesus for me to hear. He clearly stated that the way we measure others is the way God will measure us. I don’t know about you, but when I stand before God someday I’m going to be seeking mercy and grace, like anyone would. The thought that Jesus would judge me as harshly as I judge others is frightening.
So if you are prone to the practice of judging others, stop it. Just quit. Its not worth it, and its not your responsibility.
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?” (Matthew 6:25, NIV)
Worry is the anxiety we feel that is fostered by uncertainty regarding the future. Jesus spoke to this in the middle of The Sermon on the Mount, giving six reasons why we are not to worry.
1. Do not worry because you are valuable to God.
“Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?” (Matthew 6:26, NIV)
2. Worry does not change anything.
“Can any one of your by worrying add a single hour to your life?” (Matthew 6:27, NIV)
3. God regularly demonstrates his faithfulness.
“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you–you of little faith?” (Matthew 6:28-30, NIV)
4. Worry betrays our claims of faith and trust in God.
“So do not worry, saying ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things.” (Matthew 6:31-32, NIV)
5. God already knows your needs.
“…and your heavenly Father knows that you need them.” (Matthew 6:32b, NIV)
6. Our priority is to focus on the Kingdom of God and trust God’s promise to care for us.
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” (Matthew 6:33-34, NIV)
How can you really tell if someone is good at what they do? I mean that’s a pretty subjective value, isn’t it? What is good to me may be average to one or excellent to another. Over time I have come to a very simple conclusion to help me decide if someone is good at what they do.
My conclusion? I think I can do what he or she does. There is something about those who are good at what they do that make it look effortless. The good ones always make whatever they do look easy, and the exceptional ones motivate you to actually try it.
Some time ago I was reflecting on the ironic nature of the day “Good Friday.” When I think about it, nothing was good about Good Friday. Good Friday was a day devoted to betrayal, denial, false accusations, beatings, condemnation and death.
I understand theologically that God used all of those things for our good. We are beneficiaries to all that Christ suffered in his passion. But for Jesus it was not so good.
2,000 years later we still live in a world filled with Good Friday experiences. Not a lot has changed, really. We still witness and perhaps have even experienced betrayal, denial, false accusation, physical and emotional abuse, and condemnation. Death is still among us. Everyday we are surrounded by people plagued by the very things Jesus came to overcome.
Yet we, the people of faith, are not governed by Good Friday. We are people of the resurrection. We are Sunday people in a Friday world. May our lives reflect the victory that Christ gained through the cross and resurrection, and may our lives shine forth like a beacon, pointing the way to hope.
We need a new perspective on death.
Most of us, reasonably so I suppose, view death as the end.
The end of life, the end of all things good. The end of all things we love.
Heaven is nothing more than the rest of everything; the reward for enjoying all of the good stuff here and now.
But is that right?
I think evangelicalism has done a disservice to everyone in leading people to believe that heaven is the reward for now. It’s not. Heaven is the real beginning to life as God sees it.
We dread, even fear death. We view it as some tragic end to the good stuff of life. But from God’s perspective, its not the end, its merely the beginning to all that God has planned all along.
The gift of life that we have is nothing more than an opportunity to get to find and know God. Once we do, we have an obligation to help others come to know and find God.
All death is is a transition to knowing God fully, and spending an eternity experiencing the life that He has planned for us all along.
There’s nothing wrong with dreading death or even prolonging our lives. But let’s not look at death as the end of something great and heaven as settling for something “ok.” Death for the believer is the beginning of what’s truly great. It’s a step across the threshold of what God intended from the beginning.
The following poem, written by Muriel Blackwell, has always stuck in the back of my mind as I think about children’s ministry.
On Sitting Still
by Muriel Blackwell
He told me just to sit right here,
But not to make a sound;
And he would teach me all the truths
Within the lessons found.
Although I sat still on a chair,
My mind went out to play;
For God’s blue sky called out to me,
“This is a lovely day.”
I soared the vast expanse of space
Without an earthly care,
And built me castles in the clouds,
Yet never left the chair.
It’s true I didn’t make a sound;
But he could not discern,
That sitting still does not assure
A single thing I’ll learn!
According to the most recent Barna Group report, 1 in 4 unchurched persons in America is either an atheist or an agnostic. You can read the full report HERE.